I used to fight alot, get angry at people, have sex, and all that junk. I would call myself a christian i go to church every sunday and youth. I go on mission trips and even tell people about christianity if i get the chance. At the same time though i can still be an angry person and ill have slip ups and fight people or break and have sex with my girlfriend. There are moments when i am determind to change my ways and i do good but then i slip and go right back to where i was.
All these things are the reason we are to renew our minds daily. Get into th Word and study.
Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
#1 by No Chance Without Fireball on April 30, 2010 - 3:02 am
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hi im Fireball!
female born again Methodist. Im an army veteran with 2 adult kids who are both married and Im on 2nd marriage. Hell is graves. Jesus slept. We will too. See Ecc 9th chapter…we will either rapture from life or sleep first in the grave if born again..we all make typos and some should get over it since we dont get paid for this. This life is full of pain and suffering but the next one can be paradise if we repent etc.
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#2 by The Stapler on April 30, 2010 - 3:11 am
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Most christians stare down their noses at their neighbors and think about how much better they are than them.
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#3 by Zita on April 30, 2010 - 3:24 am
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I look at Muslims and say , what a Idiots .they slaves
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#4 by SPL Texas on April 30, 2010 - 3:38 am
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2 things
1) Ask Jesus to fill you with His Holy SPirit
2) Cast out every evil spirit that has gotten access to your mind from the events and decision of your past and they will leave – Cast them out is what Jesus said
You will then be free and free forever!
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#5 by faniiibabeee.! on April 30, 2010 - 4:03 am
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I think about the love God has for us && ask yourself this.
Do I really want to go to hell because of my selfish desires.?
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#6 by ummer f on April 30, 2010 - 4:25 am
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FD8AWqMUv18 – - stay away from the bad crowds is the best way to be a better christian.
Do like Jesus, retreat from all and go to the desert.
Fast to avoid sex.
Mary to keep yourself pure.
But since you have been an fornicator… there’s no turning back for you in christianity. And the children will pick up stones and stone you, as they are innocent. And we find that our children do grow up and become our greatest enemies.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OqmKZ7ezKMM
Know that you cannot call yourself a believer if your god is sin.
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#7 by JT on April 30, 2010 - 4:41 am
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All these things are the reason we are to renew our minds daily. Get into th Word and study.
Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
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rom 12:2
#8 by debbie2243 on April 30, 2010 - 5:15 am
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God sends the angels to watch what humans do. They report to God and God has a book. When we sin he erases our name from the Book of Life. When we ask for forgiveness and do God’s will he write our name back in the book.
Don’t think someone isn’t watching you SLIP because you are on display 24/7
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#9 by Progressive Guy on April 30, 2010 - 6:00 am
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You’ve just described a certain type of people. It’s called being human. Everyone’s got problems. I’m a youth pastor and I got problems. If you think Christianity is all about do’s and don’ts then you got it all wrong. Christianity is about relationships and love. Find someone you can talk to about your problems. Find someone who will hold you accountable for your actions. The best person will probably be older than you and not related. Make sure everything you tell them is confidential. Also, make faith real and living to you. Read some Christian books because there’s a whole lot of people out there writing books about what you’re going through and how they survived. "Blue Like Jazz", "Velvet Elvis" are just some to name a few. If you need any other pointers, just ask.
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I’m a youth pastor that messes up sometimes too
#10 by Pastors George and Sharon on April 30, 2010 - 6:06 am
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Our question is where are you in your relationship with God? Do you rely on Him to take up where you leave off? Did you know it’s not possible to change your behavior permanently on your own power? It truly takes God’s power to change. We encourage you to talk to Him about this in prayer and then wait for His timing in helping you do what you cannot do for yourself. He loves requests like this, so have at it!
Also, we’re trained, certified Christian counselors, and we are here for you if you want to email us privately. christsdisciple@christsdisciples.info
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#11 by chandcruz on April 30, 2010 - 6:38 am
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I hope this is a real question from a real christian, but we all have our own struggle. At least you know what you need to change. What you have to do is change….it’s hard but that’s the only way. Learn to let anger not to control you.
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#12 by Faith & Love on April 30, 2010 - 6:47 am
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Haha dude i have the same problem, well not the sex part, but everyone will fade. I believe there is a point in someone’s life that if you really want to be a christian, it will come. It sounds to me right now your having a problem with the world, and you love this world and just don’t want to give up on that right now. Its like an invisible barrier surrounding you, that stops you from giving your all to God, but once you break, once you truly get past the holy spririt will come into you and you will be on fire. when will that time come, i have no idea, it’s all up to you. There is nothing stopping you, the only thing holding you back is yourself. I wish you the best of luck man.
I know i didn’t really answer the question, but i gave you a clue on how to get there. Also everytime, i used the word "you" i could also replace it with "us".
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#13 by Sun Green on April 30, 2010 - 7:36 am
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First of all, why is sex with someone YOU LOVE bad?
Anger of course can be troublesome in any religious context, not only for christians and the way to solve it is to calm down and look for triggers of your anger cognitively decide against freaking out too much and hurting others anyway.
Just think about why you act the way you do and how you can change it, you do not necessarily need religion for that!
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#14 by AlbertHoward.org on April 30, 2010 - 7:55 am
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find a quiet place on a regular basis where you can hear god’s voice. seek god’s face and be ready to obey his commands if you really love him. don’t be too hard on yourself…you’ll get through this
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#15 by anthony h on April 30, 2010 - 8:19 am
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study God’s word as it is written in truth and stay focused on it. take about 30 minutes to an hour aday, chapter by chapter and verse by verse. Ask God to give you wisdom knowledge and understanding of the word.
none of us is perfect, if you think that your anger is a problem, then, you should try anger management classes.
have confidence in yourself, you will be fine, all have sinned and come short of the glory of God, at least you recognize your issues and you know yourself, many don’t. You have the advantage, you are honest with yourself about who you are, now trust in God to help lead and guide you.
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#16 by CHI-TOWN on April 30, 2010 - 8:48 am
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Stay in prayer, stay in Gods word, and fellowship with other saints….
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#17 by edwah zephaniah on April 30, 2010 - 9:07 am
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So then you are a religious man and making your boast and for what?
John 1: 3 and Hebrews 1: 3 and Hebrews 4: 13 reveals that if you will do anything to God it will be through Him (the WORD) "With whom we have to do"
Romans 8: 13 believed will do as 2 Corinthians 4: 13 reveals with what Colossians 2: 11-12 reveals.
When you from the born again spirit you are, will obey God to be renewed in the spirit of your mind, you will obey Romans 12: 1-3 Ephesians 4: 23-24 and Colossi ans 3: 10
As long as you are only born again in the heart in the spirit and your mind as a mere man, you are a babe, 1 Corinthians 3: 3 and Hebrews 5: 12-14 READ THESE
In the heart you may be apprehended of Christ, but you have been lying and not being true to your confession of faith; you know Romans 10: 9-10.
It must be first that you have a new nature eternal life, so as to work out your salvation , Philippians 2: 12-13. But if you are not going to run the race of apprehending that which also you are apprehended of Christ if you haven’t studied to show your self approved unto God"…
How can your mind come into the saving knowledge and be renewed if you are not applying revealed truth? God didn’t make us robots. He first gave us what we could not do for ourselves and that is give us His Divine Nature, eternal life with which we escape the corruption of Lust which is in the world, 2 Peter 1: 4.
See James 3: 15 and 17-18 and let the wisdom of the LORD BE YOUR CONVERSATION AND YOUR BODY WILL GO IN THAT SAME DIRECTION
But you have not so learned Christ if so you have heard Him and been thought by Him ,as the truth is in Jesus. But instead you have not put off the former conversation of the old man which is corrupt according to the deceitful Lust, through which the prince of the power of the air who works through it to bring forth the works of the flesh, Galatians 5: 19-21, Ephesians 2:2-3, and Ephesians 4: 17-24
Brother please accept my reproof, for i have only your interest at hand, and have no rocks in my pocket to throw at you. But I would rather you from a determined heart hear me, yet what the Spirit of God is saying right now to you.
By the grace of God i am set apart for you and many others , and am a tool in the tool box of God, and i am not my own.
There is no condemnation in Christ but you must remain there, for the Lord is that Spirit, and where the Spirit of the LORD is, there is liberty, and i would that you take hold of the liberty you may not have discerned. I give you mine and in the name of Jesu impart to you in the person of the Spirit of God to help you strengthening you in the inner most being; Father let the spirit of wisdom and understanding come upon my brother and let no good thing be hidden from him so that in reading the knowledge of God the eyes of his understanding may be enlightened, Father do that which is according to the power that works in Him, and bring a refreshing to his mind, enable him to be the minister accoring to the gift he doesn’t know yet now knowing , in Jesus name.
Believe brother only be believing.
sincerely edwah z j
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#18 by Eclectic Heretic on April 30, 2010 - 9:53 am
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Couple things. You’re human, and humans do stupid things sometimes. But you seem to go beyond that. You do have severe anger issues. I know about those, spent 10 years in prison for violence and I still struggle with them even though I have been out for 25 years and I have done therapy off and on for all those years.
You can pray your a$$ off and it might last for a very short time. But until you deal with the underlying anger, prayer won’t solve the problem in the long run. Get some professional counseling on this. Check out your local mental health centers. One-on-one counseling is good to a point, working with groups where you meet and work with people that are dealing with the same stuff you are is the best route, in my experience.
"Change is what happens when the pain of where you are becomes greater than the fear of change."
Go for the change, believe me, it is well worth it.
Blessings on your Journey!
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#19 by Jennifer on April 30, 2010 - 10:28 am
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There are a lot of answers on here, but I like Progressive Guy and Pastor George and Sharon’s the best.
I grew up in a Christian home, doing all the Christian things–but God didn’t start to really mean anything to me until I spent a year deployed in Afghanistan. Sitting in the desert for a year will make you think. And I started to understand what all those people meant by "a relationship with Jesus."
It sounds really hokey and you hear that phrase all the time I’m sure, but that’s really what it’s all about. Your sin isn’t about some angel sitting on your shoulder keeping a tally and reporting back. That’s a load of legalistic crap. Your sin is about you making selfish, feel-good short-term choices, and God saying, "You know, you’d be better off doing this instead. Not because I won’t love you if you continue on this other path, but because I know the BEST path for you."
So don’t get bogged down with trying to ACT like a Christian–saying the right things and going on the right trips, etc. It’s about finding out who God is and who you are, and who he made you to be. If you spend the time to listen for God to speak to your heart and answer those questions for you…then the rest of that behavior stuff comes from that understanding.
I don’t swear and get drunk and give into those physical desires anymore…not because it’s the good Christian thing to do, but because I learned more about who God made me to be. Knowing who I’m supposed to be from the dude that made me, and seeing the destructiveness of the path I was on is what caused me to change my ways.
It’s not about being a better Christian. It’s about viewing God as a real being to build a relationship, a friendship, with and then stepping into that.
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